Monday, May 21, 2012

Feminism: Stronghold For Borderlines

Slutwalk, Trafalgar Square in London, 2011. Photo: garryknight/Flickr

 Chain-smoking vlogger Aurini labels borderlines “perpetual victims” in his series describing the four main personality disorders. He opens by noting that psychologists get tongue-tied when breaking down the characteristics of borderlines.
There are three reasons for this:
  1. The borderline’s tendency to bring out abusive behavior in others is profoundly politically incorrect. Acknowledging it is “victim blaming”.
  2. Shrinks tend to describe borderline behavior in an impersonal vacuum. It cannot be properly understood unless you study the relationship dynamics between two individuals.
  3. Three out of four borderlines are women: this opens the classification up to the claim of misogyny or the overrepresentation as a side-effect of a patriarchal society.
Called “the most dangerous of them all,” Aurini’s rant about borderlines is powerful because he makes no attempt to divorce his personal experiences from scholarship. He was sucked into the strange, chaotic world of a borderline in which he was continually made to feel guilty for insane, frivolous infractions.
His observations line up with my own with uncanny accuracy. Bracelet shopping for my girlfriend at the time, she rang and blasted me for not being with her “as promised.” Explaining that I was getting her something special for Christmas thus need to handle it alone didn’t lessen her rage. No matter what I did, even when it was solely for her benefit, it was usually somehow abusive or “wrong.” I was expected to be a mind-reader perfectly tuned to her swirl of emotions, and to act accordingly as if I were an automaton with no free-will or course of my own. Naturally, it was my defiance of her totalitarianism that kept her hooked. In retrospect, the less love I showed her the more she was drawn to me.
Treating the borderline with decency gets similar results as if one actually is an abusive jerk. As good-natured gestures are never rewarded by the borderline, this pushes otherwise level-headed men into abusive behavior out of sheer frustration. When the man finally does blow up, the borderline female is faced with guilt, often finally realizing that it was her insistent pestering and bullying that fueled the climatic clash. At this point if her fear of abandonment outweighs her will to be a victim she’ll tearfully seek the man’s forgiveness. Her habit of button-pressing temporarily ceases as her demeanor switches to sweet and childlike. She has effectively rewarded her lover for abusive behavior. Since she fails to appreciate or even recognize his acts of kindness, she is subconsciously conditioning him to be a monster.

Borderline and feminism: a destructive combination

As feminism is an ideology of eternal victimhood, it is a seductive cause for women with borderline personality disorder. Rather than shaping her outlook to conform to that of the group, feminism fits with her warped view of reality out of the gate. She is able to easily take the microcosm of her personal life, with men as the perpetrators, and scale it to the political macrocosm, with the patriarchy as the abstract oppressive force holding her back.
Her relationship with the supposed patriarchy, actually the state, likewise exhibits the same dysfunctional characteristics as her relationships. The borderline feminist ever rallies against the oppressive force of masculinity yet demands special privileges afforded by the redistribution of male wealth to females. The more the state bends over backwards to appease her, the more outraged she becomes and the more irrational her demands get. Overwhelmed, eventually the state is forced to ignore the borderline feminist, as this is the only responsible way to deal with borderlines (as noted by psychologists) and the only viable option politically. The state is unable to lash out at her as she latently desires as this is impractical in the macrocosm and would be political suicide. Frustrated that the bait remains on the hook, she continues to pick at non-issues.
There is no endgame as the BPD feminist is eternally dissatisfied.
If a feminist utopia were erected, with a female majority assuming high-paying, influential positions, special privileges for women on the backs of men would no longer be sustainable. The borderline feminist being the irrational, destructive creature she is, hasn’t considered that a role reversal would eventually extinguish women’s ability to garner wealth merely on the basis of their sex once the tipping point is reached. Even after, she’d reason that most women occupy modest positions and thereby still need government-funded perks while men are reduced to a slave class.
Of course a female takeover at the apex of the pyramid isn’t feasible no matter how bad Hanna Rosin wants it. Although there’s a more than adequate supply of white knight politicians and CEOs scrambling to accommodate women, at the top of the ladder the disparity in performance between the sexes becomes difficult to whitewash. With all her emotional issues to contend with the borderline feminist can’t hold it together in a high-stress environment, making a real-world leadership role a pipe dream.
Despite all the wealth and power, big daddy government can’t fill the role of the abuser as the borderline feminist subconsciously desires. Provoking authorities but never receiving a figurative bitch slap, her hysteria only escalates.

 By Adam Geddes of Splitsburgh

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